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A DEADLY HABIT IN…

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3 Tips for Loving, Happy Relationships

“Appreciation of our diversity”, I wish that would be a class in school. It would prepare us at least partially for our future relationships with ourselves and with others. Competition divides us and is a killer for friendships and relationships. The trend to look at “winners and losers” by validating the “winner” much more than the “loser” doesn’t teach our children compassion or respect. That is quite contradicting to the call or request for respect which is so often expressed. In intimate relationships and with parenting styles criticism, comparison and judgment of behavior – especially when our needs aren’t met- is rather rule then exception. One key for happy relationships is feeling totally accepted for who you are. When people are in love, they tend to see only the good in the other. That’s not only because they don’t see “reality” (whose reality is it anyway), they just focus on the beauty of the other. If the critical mind awakes, usually the energy shifts..sadly enough. Why not to stay for ever in that state of bliss?

Interpretation and perception are great misleads and problem causes in all relationships. There is not ONE reality, but we all perceive the same ONE reality differently. That’s because we bring into our scopes our past and our beliefs. We also have intuition and we sense vibrations from others. So, how do we interpret these? Well, without connecting to criticism, some people you just might stay away from. You can still respect and validate them, but protect yourself from vibes you don’t align or feel good with… In respecting the other person as he/she is, that makes us feel much more pleasant than when we are in the “I’m right you’re wrong” discussions… Your opinion isn’t better, its only different. For example the “You are lazy” accusation tells more about the needs of the speaker than the true intentions of the one that is most likely relaxing. Yes,this is pure interpretation. Clear observation is the best guidance for true understanding and eventually can lead to acceptance. That doesn’t include that violence is permitted. It never is.

From a closed heart to an open heart As traumatic hurtful experiences can play a destructive part in the rest of our life if we don’t take steps to heal and release, so can multi-generational misery or Epigenetics conduct our life as well. It’s not only learned behavior that makes us act towards our partner like how our parents treated each other. How free are our choices for behavior really? Trauma keeps its power until healed and released, like negativity is surpassed by positivity. Little wounds leave little scars, while big wounds leave big scars. When the pain is large, we can decide to close our heart for love to protect ourselves from being hurt again or the bitterness takes over and causes us to close ourselves off. All of us know people who are perceived as “cold”. Did you know that violence, rape and arranged marriages without love could stop the flow of love through the future generations? The systemic work I do traces the path back to that cause. This work offers a new perspective and understanding of the bigger picture. It simultaneously offers forgiveness and honors what needs to be brought to light and opened up for love again. If your life unfolds in ways you don’t understand, whether its about lack of success in work, divorce issues with you or your children, adoption, depression or anxiety, try this workshop: “Discover the Hidden Information in Your Energy”

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Music for the soul

Yasha Heifetz was a legend with his incredible passionate sound and phenomenal technique. His father, seemingly an advanced violinist played for him Tchaikovsky, and Yasha, 2 years old, would deadly-silent listen. As a trick, somewhere in the Tchaikovsky concerto, to show his sensitive musical ears, the father would pluck one sour note from the strings. At that the kid would let out a squawk of protest and reached through the bars to catch at his fathers coat…

During my first career as a classical flutist I once had a student at my home playing a Mozart flute concert to work on together. The babysitter didn’t show up, so we would see how far we could get with my 6 month old daughter in the room, who was usually very “talkative”… The baby listened while laying down, for at least 30 minutes without making any movement or sound. It’s known that Mozart ‘s music has been proven to help elevate people’s energy and mood levels. I wish that Mozart would be more often broad-casted in certain stores and places…as is often the situation now. Have you ever been for example in Best Buy? The music played there has been proven to do neurological damage. You would rather ran out the store…Corporate tells them to use those tapes, and many people working there told me they felt exhausted after a day from the noise. Why on earth do we spend so much money on science and not implement it in our daily life…

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Tap into your incredible innate capacity to heal circumstances, relationships and difficult life situations!

Epigenetics: Clinical psychology research has shown that traumas are stored in the limbic brain for at least 3 generations. Thoughts are energy, sub-and unconscious(ness) are energy fields. Traumas are stored there as all the collected data of the past, and are energetic substances that impact our lives and our happiness/wellbeing today. In order to really thriving and living your full potential, recognizing and healing/releasing trauma’s is imperative. Troublesome relationships can be a sign of trauma’s in the family-energy field. Angry father-angry son. Sad mother-sad daughter, signs of generational transmission. War is often a big indicator. Unexplainable inadequacy of being able to love unconditionally, behavior of addiction, depression, anger, neuroticism etc., it is in these area’s my work can help you. By only identifying and fighting the symptom, we miss out on the bigger picture that contains much Hidden Truths. Heal your heart, you heal your life. Change your thinking you change your future!
Often a few sessions are sufficient to make a change.

As Einstein said: Everything IS Energy!

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Let pure love energy pulsate through your life, family and relationships

Past Valentines day…a day focused on LOVE! Our focus needs to be on LOVE the whole year through! Ponder about Conditional & UNconditional LOVE…You might have had a childhood where (some) adults were cold and aloof because of the lack of love they received. What you don’t have you cannot give…  

Think about the impact of family trauma’s like arranged marriages. Suppose you HAD to marry someone and your heart was with another…instead of love for your partner you feel resentment…The children you would have are not totally accepted by you either, because your heart is closed…filled with pain. It is in this energy field where Family Constellations can provide healing and have love flowing again.

Everybody can relate to this kind of pain and has  experienced  this rejection at least once.

Here is an answer: LOVE is meant to heal. Focus on the concept ‘Love’ and you will feel the change! By saying the word LOVE you connect to the energy of LOVE that  ALWAYS is available to us.

Take a deep breath, focus your attention on your heartcenter, right behind your breastbone, open the space by visualizing it and just intend to open it wide and fill it with love-energy! make it pink, red! make it large! feel the light! Breathe it in! Connecting to the power of intention is doing the job!

“The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination” according Einstein. Visualize and imagine, enjoy the process! Choose to be a LOVE-finder and not a FAULT finder!!! It’s all about creating and manfesting what you want…

Have a love-filled month!

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