In the past decades much psychotherapy was focused on blaming the parents when a child, regardless what age, had problems of thriving. It did not contribute to more inner peace, in many cases.
NOW there is a common belief that when issues are arising, the blame for the problems is put on the ABSENCE of a parent. Either way, blaming does not create compassion, healing or insight, only guilt, shame and victim-hood.
The absence of an abusive parent could be a bliss as well, the less violence in a child’s life, the better, right?
Key of the issue is that when the CHILD is helped to heal negative experiences and is guided to learn to forgive, to be empathic and taught to LOVE and APPRECIATE him/herself really, those energies pre-pave the path to a healthy, happy and thriving personality. Every experience can be turned around into an opportunity for growth and strength takes effort, but the outcome is so much better!
Acknowledge their brightness, teach to heal and clear wounds of the past at any moment in time!
Past Valentines day…a day focused on LOVE! Our focus needs to be on LOVE the whole year through! Ponder about Conditional & UNconditional LOVE…You might have had a childhood where (some) adults were cold and aloof because of the lack of love they received. What you don’t have you cannot give…
Think about the impact of family trauma’s like arranged marriages. Suppose you HAD to marry someone and your heart was with another…instead of love for your partner you feel resentment…The children you would have are not totally accepted by you either, because your heart is closed…filled with pain. It is in this energy field where Family Constellations can provide healing and have love flowing again.
Everybody can relate to this kind of pain and has experienced this rejection at least once.
Here is an answer: LOVE is meant to heal. Focus on the concept ‘Love’ and you will feel the change! By saying the word LOVE you connect to the energy of LOVE that ALWAYS is available to us.
Take a deep breath, focus your attention on your heartcenter, right behind your breastbone, open the space by visualizing it and just intend to open it wide and fill it with love-energy! make it pink, red! make it large! feel the light! Breathe it in! Connecting to the power of intention is doing the job!
“The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination” according Einstein. Visualize and imagine, enjoy the process! Choose to be a LOVE-finder and not a FAULT finder!!! It’s all about creating and manfesting what you want…
Have a love-filled month!