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Teaching Children compassion..

 If the world would suddenly be a compassionate one, how different would it be…
The strongest desire most parents have for their children is that they will be successful in life. The true understanding of success lies in who we are, not in what we do. Finding life’s purpose and doing what makes you really happy, automatically connects you to the essence of your being, your spirit, and your source. To integrate our spirit with an unconditionally loving, trust based, energy force in our mind, heart and belief system, allows clear choices to emerge and prosperity to abound in all life’s area’s. In a world where so much confusion and anger/ violence is present, vital answers can be found in the roll of conscious parenting. It is a blessing for a child to have parents to look up to, who respect the child for who (s)he is. Give respect, thou shall receive the same…make corrections with love, firm and clear, and the safety of boundaries is felt.
It is also a blessing to recieve compassion, as a way to learn to be compassionate. To create awareness about compassion is by being non-judgmental about others.  Wright and wrong statements are not loving, and certainly not compassionate. To learn to respect, to understand and to embrace our differences we learn to enjoy the variety of mankind. That is empowering children ( and adults!) and encouraging  them to bring the best out of themselves. Yes, that is part of a compassionate personailty!
The world as we know it, has always been violent in many ways. Today we have more awareness of that violence as a result of the easy exchange of information and broadcasting. Our tasks, intentions and focus must be on deliberately and intentionally creating a world where our children feel safe , cherished, supported and happy.  In the meantime , that is a great way to learn about compassion.
This is part of Carla Van Walsums very successful  ‘Happy Children, Happy Home Workshops ©’ and ‘The 7 Essentials for a Happy Family.’
Start now in February and March in:  the Red Tent, Delray Beach and Delmar Arts Academy in Ft Lauderdale. (Early birds reduction)
Carla Van Walsum  Ph.D LSHC is the owner of Transpersonal Counseling, LLC:  a Holistic Practice for Couples,  Families and Children. She works with groups and private sessions


Systemic Family Constellations:

 “Carla’s constellation workshop is moving, powerful, and healing on multi-dimensional levels simultaneously, enabling healing to occur in the past, present, and future timelines. Sunday’s event (10/26) will be amazing! I look forward to seeing you there.” Linda K.


“ Boca Raton: Constellation Approach” Transpersonal-Counseling, LLC 

 Wouldn’t it be nice if your world could change in an instant?       A magic box that opens and all is well? It  sounds  too much to  promise,  but you are invited to tap  into the world of a deeply profound and grounded European famous method called: Systemic  Family Constellations ( Dr. Bert Hellinger) and you will  see miracles unfolding.  This   work succeeds by diminishing the unconscious impulses that produces unwanted, destructive behaviors. With astonishing specificity individuals discover the root causes to their individual  problems (or their family members who do not need to be present)  and how these  nest within the field shaped by ancestral family trauma’s that are often frozen, opening up the problems into new solutions. During a constellation unexpected patterns are released,  opening up the minds with reverence for life, creating  compassion  for others. 

 We all are born into a family as  part of the “family soul”. When wounds/scars of the past generations are not healed, the future generation unconsciously may take on that burden, out of love and loyalty . 

 Wouldn’t it be nice if you finally understand  why : 

 your child seems distant towards you? 

· you cannot overcome your addictions? 

you feel gratitude for adoption but the resentment is predominant? 

 you are unsatisfied as a stay-at-home mom although it is your choice? 

 your health or finances suffer? 

 you  or your loved ones cannot come at peace with a divorce? 

· you cannot commit really in a  relationship ?you procrastinate in being successful? 

 your child overeats or has anorexia? 

 Every session begins with only one question: What is your issue?  And the answer can be anything considered urgent and described in a few sentences. 

 In an almost   silent   process  the constellation unfolds  within an hour  towards solutions.  

 90 % Of the participants report afterwards that the issue has been  eased or totally resolved. 

 Remember, Einstein said: “Everything is Energy”. 

 Aren’t we al yearning for deep fulfilling lives and relationships, for self actualization and a happier world, where our children will be free of burdens and enjoy the beauty of all that is? 

 Facilitated by Carla Van Walsum Ph.D c LSHC 

Carla has been trained and certified with Dr Bert Hellinger in Europe, the Dutch Hellinger Institute, Academy for Eclectic  Psychotherapy and with the Boston Constellation Approach. She has facilitated numerous constellations with groups and utilizes this work also in her private practice frequently 1on 1, with adults and with children. 

                            Next Workshop is:  

                   9-26-10       10 – 1 pm : the Red Tent 

                  10-24-10      10 – 1pm: the Red Tent 


                   20 S Swinton Delray Beach, Fl 33444 

Trust is a strong component for…

Trust is one strong component for..

 ….  healthy-functioning relationships. You might agree with that, but do you also know HOW to create (more) trust in your world or in yourself, especially when you don’t think that trust is highly present in your life?

     It could be that as a child you overheard your parents saying to someone else, “I don’t trust that kid at all!” “You can never trust them!”  Or you may have heard some similar expression.   Your subconscious collects all data in your life and determines much of your motivation and behavior. Usually, the negative statements you heard about yourself became part of your identity, and ironically, you most likely are proving its truth in your life. It is a terrible feeling when people don’t trust you for no apparent reason, or when you feel untrustworthy or distrustful.    Our daily conscious thoughts influence our well being and the way we deal with our lives. If we want to intentionally create more trust in our lives, the first step is to question and identify the fear behind the thoughts we tend to have….”Why do I think that, and who says that it is true?”

Maybe your world view is pessimistically colored, and you consider your views as realistic…without realizing that ‘realistic’ is a personal, subjective description that is perceived differently by everyone…You may worry that the world is fraught with danger.  The world has always been dangerous, we just know more about things outside our immediate environments because of technology.   A very simple remedy to get out of this ‘state of fear-thinking’ (the opposite of TRUST)- is to control your self-talk. Vague sentences like: “You cannot trust anybody in today’s world” or: “I told you! Never trust anyone!” must be eliminated immediately of course. One or more disappointing experiences can not predict more of the same by themselves.

However with negative thinking they can easily become ‘self-fulfilling prophecies”   Simply said: If you focus on trust with your whole being, you can create so much positive energy that a shift is inevitable. For good things to occur in your life, you need to feel as good as possible. Trust is one of these pillars to thrive on.    Do you want to meet people you can trust?  Ask for it. Radiate trust. What you send out, you’ll get back. Your clear positive intentions will manifest another reality. Try it for a while and see what happens   The result of trusting in “all is well” thoughts, gives you the opportunity to escape from where you are at this moment, even though it seems to be the opposite of what you’re experiencing now. Science shows that fearful people are more likely to be robbed than fearless ones

This  supports  the thesis that taking responsibility for our thoughts consciously is bringing us closer to where we want to be!

Trust connects you to  the right place

“I only meet trust worthy people”  

“I trust that whatever feels good is good”.                          

“I am safe.”

 “Everything is working out for my highest good

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